You might have heard affirmations talked about online but what are they and how can they benefit your child? Here is NI4kid’s guide to introducing affirmations into your daily routine
What are affirmations?
Affirmations are simple statements of things you know to be true, or something that you wish to be true. The repetition of saying the word or phrase over and over again helps to bring power to the words and enforce positive thinking. For example, if you are experiencing self-doubt you might repeat to yourself “I am a strong, capable person” until the words begin to feel familiar and you believe them. While it may seem like pseudoscience, affirmations work by positively enforcing constructive thoughts and encouraging a more optimistic outlook.
How do affirmations help my child’s development?
The main benefit of practising affirmations with children is to instil greater self-confidence and self-worth. Throughout the day children can come across many different situations, both in school and at home, where they are told off or asked to stop certain behaviours. As adults we may think these incidents are non-events but beneath the surface feelings of inadequacy can be starting to build. For example, if you were constantly reprimanded at work, you might start believe you’re not very good at you job; the same can be said for children. As much as we wish we could create a world for our kids where they don’t have to experience negative emotions that is not entirely realistic. Therefore, taking time each day to practise some positive thoughts can go a long way toward dispelling any negative “truths” about themselves a child might be feeling. Developing a more positive outlook on life can help build resilience and help your child to have a more positive reaction the next time they experience a setback. It can also encourage open communication and give the child an opportunity and platform to discuss with you about how they are feel in certain situations.
What is the best way to introduce them to my child?
Pick a time that works best for your family, this can be in the morning to start the day off in a feel-good way, or at bedtime to reduce the possibility of going to bed anxious or upset. Try to pick a time that can be easily built into your routine and repeated each day. The great thing about affirmations is that they take less than a few minutes so they can be easily incorporated into even the busiest schedules. Start by asking your child if they have any suggestions for phrases that they would like to use, but come prepared with some back-ups in case they need some prompting.
Some of our favourites include:
I am loved
I am enough as I am
I matter
I believe in myself
I am kind to everyone
I am my own person
I always try my best
It’s ok to have big feelings
Every child is different and while some may choose to repeat their affirmations out loud with you, others may be happier repeating them silently to themselves. To make it more fun you can encourage them to repeat them in front of a mirror or even sing them. Follow your child’s lead on what is right for them but be there to offer support and encouragement.
